(EVEN IF YOU’RE IN A PARTNERSHIP)
Happy Valentine’s Day to all of you. Yes, ALL of you! You see, I think this is a special day for sharing the love and spreading it so we can ALL can feel it. Can you imagine the ripple effect if we each took a few turns at sharing love?
I was recently asked if I would do an event speaking on self-love and why this kind of love is important to our relationships. Then, I was specifically asked if I could talk about the reasons why I should date myself. This is one of my favorite topics! Dating yourself is a great way to know what we want, what we like and don’t like, and teaches us how to convey that message to others. EVEN BETTER, we get a chance to just purely enjoy something without having to make adjustments. THERE’S MORE! READ ON! (I will even share some ideas of the kinds of dates you can do.)
WHY SHOULD WE DATE OURSELVES?
Happiness shouldn’t depend on your relationship status. You can learn ways to be happy with yourself and be okay with being alone, whether you are in a partnership or not. YOU TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE & HAPPINESS and not depend on someone else to validate you. Once you do this, you enjoy the benefits of confidence, self-sufficiency, self-love and happiness.
Dating yourself means you dedicate your time, money and energy into taking care of yourself and connecting with your inner self, building a healthy relationship with yourself by knowing your true value and worth. This helps you in all your relationships and helps you to be content with your life as it is..
When choosing activities, try something you enjoy doing or try something you’ve always wanted. Go the extra mile as if you were on a date with someone by making sure you look good and feel good. Wear that fancy outfit or special jewelry. Put on that sassy “I am worth it” attitude. Create something fun, romantic or magical and just savor it all.
1. LOVE YOURSELF MORE.
Get to know yourself better. What do you value; what are your strengths and what are things you’d like to work on? When you know yourself better, you can convey it better to others. Treat yourself as you would want a romantic partner to do. Spoil yourself. Enjoy yourself! (that’s okay!)
2. PERSONAL Growth
Get out of your comfort zone and stretch yourself. Get comfortable with making your own decisions. You learn more of who you are and grow into a better, more confident you.
3. IT BUILDS BETTER RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS.
When you spend more time with yourself, you learn how to deal with things better. And then you learn to give yourself grace and compassion, which are great skills to have in other relationships, especially a romantic one.
4. DON’T HAVE TO COMPROMISE WITH ANYONE OR PLEASE ANYONE.
Thinking about this: You get to do the things you want to do, when you want to do them without having to make adjustments for the plans or expectations of others. Maybe you get to stay longer or go home sooner or do something without judgement. Having pure pleasure and enjoyment is okay.
5. NO RISK OF GETTING HURT.
When dating yourself, you aren’t having to meet someone else’s expectations. No one can stand you up or disappoint you. YOU have the responsibility to treat yourself the way you want to be treated. This is also a transferrable skill in other relationships.
Self-care has become a buzz word for pampering yourself more and giving yourself extra care, which is a great start. AND it also includes that you can put your energy into your needs and wants since you won’t be worrying about anyone else. Then, when we are asked to give, we can give from an overflowing cup of fullness instead of emptiness.
7. iT CAN BE FUN.
What if, you can be spontaneous and adventurous and try things you have always wanted without worrying about including what someone else wants in your plans? That could be great fun!
There are so many GREAT reasons dating yourself is a good idea. THE BEST REASON OF ALL : YOUR HAPPINESS, YOUR ENORMOUS GREAT LIFE DOESN’T DEPEND ON BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP. Fall in love with you today! ~ Luv Rev. Marie
P.S. TOMORROW. Look out for some dates you can try with yourself.